A goal is a dream with work boots on. A goal is something you decide to make real.
By setting up goals, we have a better sense of direction. We have something to fall back on, a reminder of where we are going. Where we want to be. Who we want to be. How we want our lives to shine. Then we build habits from there.
If not now, then when?
For me, I always had a dream. A dream to help others. It wasn’t until 15 years ago, that I realized where I wanted to go with that dream. I always envisioned myself owning my own business with a mission to help others feel better about themselves. I’d wonder, how do I get there? Knowing that I could not just open the doors to people without establishing myself, I continued to strive for finding myself.
I had a vision in my mind. The obstacles that came my way were just that. Obstacles. They were chances for me to grow. The vision still stood in my mind. The idea that this is what I need to experience in order to get to where I want to be.
I had become obsessed with the process, not the goal.
Over the years, I have learned that in order to grow, I needed to let go of a lot of things. A lot of things (because that’s exactly what they are..things). Things that were holding me back from being who I was meant to be. My true intentional self. Things that no longer served me. I REPEAT. Things that no longer served me. No longer serving a purpose. Past relationships, jobs, habits, conversations, and situations that kept me rooted down. Kept me from being confident, happy, and free.
This took work. So much work. But you know what? I am beyond thankful. I am thankful for those tough times and those times of chaos. When I thought there was no way out. Times when I thought this is it. This is how I’m going to live my life. I was unhappy, not in the best health, or best mental state.
I became sick and tired of being sick and tired all the time. Cliché, but y'all so true. I decided I wanted to be a better person for my daughter. A better wife. A better friend. A better daughter. A better sister. I wanted to be a better role model. To walk the walk and not just talk the talk. After all, it’s easier to give advice than to live it. Don’t get me wrong, through this journey I have walked the walk. It has taken a lot of falling down and getting back up. And more falling down and getting back up. That’s what makes us human. Nobody is perfect. Nobody is perfectly healthy. Trying is what matters.
So, I am here to tell you what works for me. Take what you can and leave the rest.
My goals are different from yours, but we all have them. Whether we have written them down or not. Setting them and remembering that goals take time, effort, and work can simplify our lives. Simplify our lives in a way that we don’t have to be so dang hard on ourselves. Especially if we don’t accomplish them when we think we should. Remember, become obsessed with the process, not the goal. There is a reason that something can be taking longer than we wanted to.
Lastly, I’d like to share with you what has worked for me when it comes to setting my goals. Some of y’all may know that I am a little obsessed with Rachel Hollis. Her two most recent books, “Girl, Wash Your Face” and “Girl, Stop Apologizing” were huge for giving me that extra pep in my step. Rachel points out in her book, Girl, Stop Apologizing, the importance of setting goals. And to write them down as if you have accomplished them already. This is exactly what I did.
By writing down ALL of my dreams (big or small), I was able to break them down into 10 dreams that I’d like to accomplish in the next 10 years:
+I am debt free
+I am energetic, confident, and breaking down my walls
+I am an extraordinary wife
+I am an extraordinary mom
+I have started a business helping people through my own motivation with health and wellness on how to love yourself and live your best life
+I drive a black pimped out 4-Runner
+I travel with my husband once a year to the beach/mountains
+I travel with my family once a year to Disney/mountains/beach/camping
+I am healthy and fit, eating lots of veggies and fruit, which make me feel energetic & vibrant
+I am an exceptional leader
Okay, so some of them…uhemm like the “I drive a black pimped out 4-Runner” may be extreme, but it’s my dream! It’s my goal that I would like to accomplish. It’s my favorite car. Always has been. I have had two 4-Runners already and yet I still want another one. Point being is that it does not matter. Your dream. Your goal. It is yours. OWN IT! And remember nobody else’s opinion of you matters.
What is ONE goal you would like to accomplish in the next 10 years? Comment below!
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