Life Lessons: 55 Things I've Learned From Asking For Help
Some may cringe at the idea of asking for help and some value the act tremendously. I know I used to be that person that would cringe. Ask for help? Who me? I can do that on my own. Or maybe I'm too embarrassed because only "weak" people ask for help. Or that person already has enough on their plate, I can't bother them.
Fast forward two years later since my last blog post, I write to you these words from what Brene Brown once said, "as a recovering perfectionist and an aspiring good-enoughest".
I write this with the hopes of not only reaching someone somewhere who may need to know they are not alone and should never do life alone, no matter how much you think you can do on your own, but to explain the importance of how much success comes through support. Yes, I am a coach and teacher who loves encouraging others to live a life of joy and fulfillment, but I became this way because I chose to be the helper rather than to get bitter and burnt out about my life.
It's okay to reach out when you need it. It's okay to be vulnerable. You are human not a robot. The world needs you. You need you. Your family, friends, kids, coworkers need you. Humans are built for connection. Sadly, too many of us go through life alone. Whether it be from past trauma, shame, guilt, abandonment, rejection, etc. We fear we are the only ones suffering.
LIES.
So, I am here to share with you some of the things I have learned along my crazy journey of life from what I call my supportive tribe over the years of: close friends, strangers, support groups, therapists, energy healers, sponsors, mentors, and last, but certainly not least--God. My hopes for you are to realize that you matter. You are worthy. You are capable of anything. Take what you like and leave the rest.
55 Things I've Learned Asking For Help:
a thought is not a fact
our thoughts control our behaviors
you are not weak because you ask for help
communication is EVERYTHING
you don't have to live in your pain
there is a difference between being productive and being busy
being dis-attached keeps you from loving yourself AND others
anger doesn't have to be the first reaction
stop trying to be so busy/distracted all of the time, you'll miss the moments you are meant to cherish
when having a low season in life, focus on the next right thing/each step rather than the whole staircase
your outlets either help you or distract you from what you should be acknowledging/healing
you didn't build these habits overnight, they won't go away overnight
a trigger is a sign you need healing in this area
you are not responsible for other's feelings or anyone's troubles
you can't fix others
it's okay to be loved
if you want to grow- you have to learn to sit through the discomfort
don't put yourself on the backburner. YOU matter too
you can't please everyone
you can have your own opinion
not everyone will like you no matter what you do for them
BOUNDARIES
slow down
nourish the good in your life- what you already have while building the life you love
don't believe every thought
your parents are people too--doing/did the best they could with the tools they had
forgiving doesn't mean the hurt/action is okay. forgiving is about freeing yourself from the pain
not everyone has to know everything about you
you are in charge of your 4 walls
you don't have to be 5 years old to enjoy dancing in the rain
there's no checklist for grief. you have to learn to build new experiences around it
you're a great friend
breathing is the simplest form of getting in tune with your body
affirmations work
it's okay to still love the things you enjoyed before you had kids
do what is right for your family. not everyone has to agree with it
it's okay to start new traditions
it's okay to break generational patterns
you have choices
everything is figureoutable
everyone is trying the best they can
there is no such thing as perfection
forgive yourself for not knowing then what you know now
taking care of you is caring for those around you
you don't need love from everyone else to love yourself
FIND time for the ones you love
acknowledge how you are feeling- it will give less power over you
you are loved AND worthy
people cannot read your mind
it's okay to have bad days. it doesn't make you a bad person or not good enough
own your mistakes. own you don't know something
embrace spontaneity
comparison is the thief of joy
be yourself. the right people will STILL love you
don't rub your eye after cutting a jalapeño. just kidding, I learned that on my own. but in any case, you can still ask for help when that happens! :)
There's never an end to your journey of health and wellness. Keep learning, keep asking, keep living your purpose. If you don't know what any of that looks like--I am here for you.
About Alexa
As a Holistic Health and Wellness Coach and Nutrition Educator, I LOVE sharing healthy tips in order to encourage others on how to live a fulfilled and energetic life through nutrition and mind + body balance. Thank YOU for stopping by!
Love,
Alexa